Felt Safe

On Saturday, June 21, 2025, I officiated Anjali and Bobby’s wedding ceremony at the Four Seasons in Mexico City, Mexico. Here are the remarks I shared with them and their guests:

Anjali and Bobby met through working at the same hospital. For five years their interactions were purely professional. Anjali liked what she saw: “I noticed early on he was quite shy and reserved but had a distinctly kind and genuine way about him. He wasn’t like most surgeons. There was no ego, he was not demanding and was quite respectful and understanding of some of the difficult decisions we often have to make in the OR. That alone is the way to an Anesthesiologists heart!”
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Now how exactly they became a couple, I will leave that to Anjali and Bobby to fill you in on, but I will say it is one of those times when mothers know best.

Bobby describes the initial part of their relationship from his vantage point: “The first time we spent time with each other outside of work, it was like something clicked. She was easy to talk to, the conversation flowed, our senses of humor matched. I felt safe around her. I could be myself. The more I learned about her I saw that she is kind and caring. She has a generous spirit. She is thoughtful and introspective, something I value most.”

Anjali tells us what makes this relationship work: “Bobby, over the years, has exhibited the attributes that I have always hoped to find in a partner—he is kind, compassionate, patient, and loving. There is not a day in the past five years that I have not felt valued and truly understood, which is such a rare and precious feeling. The most important thing to me, though, is that he allows me to be myself. With him, I feel completely comfortable and accepted, without any pressure to be anything other than who I am. His love and support help me grow into the best version of myself, and I couldn’t imagine spending my life with anyone else.”
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Bobby agrees: “Anajali brings out the better parts of me. We complement each other's strengths. We listen to each other and are able to compromise. We encourage each other, we make decisions together, and we are able to give and take constructive criticism. We have known each other long enough to be sure that what we have is a real commitment. Now we want to make the commitment official, and share it with our family and friends.”